From A Sister Who Cares

Prom for girls includes the following:

Getting our hair done.

Getting our nails done.

Putting make-up on.

Finding a dress.

Dear girls who are going to Prom with my brothers,

Don’t you think the last item on the list is the hardest?  You can’t just have any dress.  You have to have the dress.  It has to make you look gorgeous, it has to be different, it has to be you. 

And for a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints it needs to be modest. 

Or does it?

This May mark seven years since my Senior Prom.  At the dance I was sad to see some girls from my church who did not dress modestly.  But that’s okay right?  I mean its Prom for one thing.  And for another, do you know how hard it is to find an inexpensive, modest prom dress that looks flattering on you?  Where I grew up there was one tiny boutique that sold modest dresses.  I could see why some girls would throw in the towel early and opt to go to the mall to find the “perfect” prom dress, even if it was sleeveless or had a slit up the side.  It was easier. 

But here are some words from a sister who cares.

I have five brothers.

I care about my brothers.

I know they have been raised to respect girls.  They view girls as daughters of our Heavenly Father.

I hope that the girls they ask on dates (Prom included) will respect them as sons of God by dressing modestly.

By dressing modestly, girls not only show respect to themselves but to their dates.  It’s been said that by dressing immodestly girls put dirty thoughts into boy’s heads.  It’s also been said that girls aren’t the ones who put those dirty thoughts into boy’s heads; the boys are the ones who allow those thoughts to enter and stay. 

That’s true.  However, can’t the girls help the boys out by dressing modestly? 

Think of it this way girls: you are told that you are to be virtuous in your actions.  You are to run away, like Joseph of Egypt, in any situation that would cause you to compromise your virtue.  So if a guy starts putting a move on you, you are supposed to say, “No way Jose.”  But wouldn’t it be so much easier if Jose didn’t put a move on you?  Wouldn’t it be easier to know that your date would never put you in a situation that would compromise your virtue? 

Have you ever thought the guys think the same thing about modesty?  Wouldn’t it be nice if, when they asked a girl to Prom they didn’t have to worry about her dressing immodestly?  They didn’t have to take their jacket and put it on you because too much of you was showing. 

Girls, I know it’s hard to find a modest dress that every other girl isn’t wearing.  But it’s possible.  I did it.  And a couple weekends ago nearly 75 girls (that I know of) did it. 

My brother attended his Junior Prom.  Well he didn’t actually attend the “real” Prom; he co-hosted the Mormon Prom at my parent’s house.  I was extremely excited that he took a beautiful young lady who dressed modestly.   I was ever so thankful that she chose to respect my brother.  Not only did she dress modestly, but also every girl who attended Mormon Prom. 

As I was scrolling through the pictures several days after Prom, I was pleased to see the many modestly dressed girls.  Each dress had a unique look to it that flattered the girl wearing it.  The girls were absolutely beautiful. 

It proves that girls can find beautiful, unique, modest dresses.

Remember this girl: IT IS NEVER OKAY TO LOWER YOUR STANDARDS.  Two of my former boyfriends, and several of my guy friends thanked me for always upholding my standards.  I’m not telling you this to make me look good, I’m telling you this to help you see the consequences of never lowering your standards.  You will be thanked by the men of your generation for never lowering your standards, even at Prom. 

To my brother’s date for dressing modestly, as well as to all the other modestly dressed girls who attended Prom this year, Thank You.

Sincerely,

From a Sister Who Cares 

Jefferson and his beautiful date!
I love how her dress is high in the front, and long in the sleeves.  

Jefferson and his group.  All modest dresses! 

A blast to the past.  Me on my Senior Prom

The girls in my group.  Notice all the modest dresses, and each on looks fabulous!

A family friend just told me this amazing story about her Prom.

"During Prom we were eating at Fujiyama, and I was in the restroom and a lady stopped me and thanked me for being modest, and not lowering my standards for Prom night.  She said, 'Sometimes girls don't realize that you can still show off your body without literally showing your body.'

"People really do notice!"

Showing off her beauty.