Saturday, December 28, 2013

With Hope, The Odds Don't Matter


This is the theme of Heather Von St. James’s story.  Three months after giving birth to her first child, Lily, Heather was given 15 months to live.  
Heather was diagnosed with Pleural Mesothelioma, a rare type of cancer that appears in the layer of cells lining the lungs.  Imagine the fear that must have engulfed her when the doctor told her and her husband that the chances of her surviving were rare.  Usually people diagnosed with Mesothelioma only live 15 more months.  
The Lord did not forget her.  He led her to a renowned Mesothelioma surgeon, Dr. David Sugarbaker.  With encouragement from her husband and hope in her heart, Heather survived cancer.  Seven years later she has made it her mission to help others find hope and beat the odds just as she did. 

I love what Ether, a Book of Mormon prophet, teaches about hope, “Wherefore, whoso believeth in God might with surety hope for a better world . . . which hope cometh of faith, maketh an anchor to the souls of men, which would make them sure and steadfast . . .” (Ether 12:4).

After seeing, hearing and pondering unimaginable situations people go through, I believe it is hope that gets them through it.  Heathers husband said the way he kept her hope up during sugary and treatment was by continually telling her that Lily needed her mother.  Heather hung on.  Today Lily has her mother. (You can find Heather's full story at mesothelioma.com/heather). 
Some people give up when told they don’t have long to live.  Sometimes when rough times hit, whatever it may be we have to have that strand of hope that everything will be okay.  We have to hang on to that strand with both hands. 

When I think of beating the odds I think of Harrison, my little brother.  When he was thirteen years old he was diagnosed with Osteochondritis dissecans.   Blood ceased to flow to the bottom of his femur bone, which essentially caused it die.  There was a risk that the dead part of bone could break off.  Dr. Higgs explained to Harrison if this happened he would need to have surgery.  In order to prevent sugary and allow the bone to heal on its own, Harrison would need to stay off it for two years.  The only exercise he could do was walking, swimming and riding a bike.  At the time he was diagnosed his tap class was two weeks away from going to competition, and he had just started track for middle school.  He had to withdraw from both of these activities. 
I can imagine most thirteen year old boys after being told they can’t play basketball, they can’t go skiing, they can’t play football, and they can’t even run would be devastated and feel sorry for themselves.  Harrison beat the odds. 
In the two years he couldn’t do any activity he only cried two times.  Once when he saw his friends playing basketball, sad that he wasn’t invited.  They thought since he couldn’t play he wouldn’t want to be there.  They didn’t realize he would have been happy to sit and watch.  (That was all cleared up though).  The second time he cried was at his year appointment when Dr. Higgs told him and my mom that the disease was still there and he would have to continue to refrain from physical activity.  He only cried because my mom started crying.
In the two years he couldn’t run, jump, play basketball, or dance, Harrison became an excellent speed walker, he learned to jump on the trampoline with one leg, and even learned how to run/hop so he could play soccer with his little brothers.  He had hope if he followed Dr. Higgs’s instructions he would be healed, and he was.  I came home from college one summer, and with glee in his voice Harrison said, “Watch this Amanda!” he then proceeded to run across the yard with both legs. 
New prospects were opened up to him because of his experience with Osteochondritis dissecans. As of now he wants to become an orthopedic doctor (bone doctor).
Several years after finding out he had Osteochondritis dissecans, Harrison is back on the field, this time playing Lacrosse


Nobody plans out trials in their life.  Hope must therefore be ever present in our souls.  Some have hope they will make it through a trial, and everything will turn out the way they wanted it to.  When it doesn’t turn out as planned this doesn’t mean they never had hope, or they didn’t have enough faith.  God had different plans.  In cases like these our hope must change.  It must be centered on what the Lord wants.  If we let our trials shape us, we can become stronger, and we can beat the odds. 

A dear friend of mine, and former roommate, was diagnosed with type one diabetes when she was about fourteen years old.  She told me one evening of her experience (and forgive me if I get some of the facts wrong).
She was initially shocked, scared, and sad when she found out she had diabetes.  Imagine being fourteen years old and finding out you had a disease that was incurable and that may eventually kill you.  My friend recalled that as she was laying in the hospital bed the first night after she was diagnosed she thought to herself that she could either have a negative outlook on her situation or a positive one.  She knew she would never be cured.  Having children in the future may be difficult, and she may die from diabetes one day.  She had a knowledge of God, and He had given her this challenge for a reason.  She decided to face her situation with a positive outlook. 
I never once saw her complain about being diabetic.  In fact if she hadn’t told me she was diabetic I would never have guessed.  I witnessed her stay close to the Lord, take care of her body (she finished a ½ marathon one summer, something I don’t think I could ever accomplish), and always strive to help others even when things in her life weren’t perfect.  She has the hope and knowledge that God loves her and knows her.  He wouldn’t put her through any challenge that she couldn’t handle without His help.  Today she is married and the mother of a healthy baby girl. 

Hope is a very powerful thing.  Hope is what got Heather through her cancer treatment and surgery.  All the odds were against her, yet she hung on.  She was a mother and her little girl needed her.  Among other things she hung onto that truth, which enabled her to fight and win her battle against Mesothelioma.  My friend and my brother hung onto the hope of optimism to get them through their trials.  Each day my friend must continue to hang onto that hope, continue to push forward and to never give up. 
Ultimately hope in Christ gives us a “sure foundation" and that is what I am so thankful for in my life. 

Thursday, December 5, 2013

Afraid of Failing


A few projects I’ve wanted to start recently
1.  A homemade calendar
2. A quilt for my baby
3. A pillowcase
4. A family scrapbook
5. A blog about books


I’ve hesitated in starting most of these projects because I’m afraid of failure.  I haven’t sewn something together since I was about fourteen years old.  A pillowcase can’t be that hard, right?  I’m sure in my hands I’ll probably end up ripping out the seams at least twice before it even resembles a pillowcase.  I’m afraid my calendar is going to turn out looking like a mess.  My children and grandchildren are going to be looking through the family scrapbook.  What will they think of my first attempts at scrapbooking since I was fifteen?  I’ve been Googling examples of scrapbooking and calendar making, hoping to get some ideas.  And my book blog?  Well I’ll be the first to admit that I’m not the best writer.  What if no one reads my blog, and further what if I have as many typos in that blog as I do in this blog?  That’s embarrassing. 
Several weeks ago I started to realize I couldn’t be afraid of failure.  I am going to fail at some things in life.  Some projects will turn out better than others.  I recently heard this example of failure on Music and the Spoken Word.  A professor at a very famous university known for it’s medical research (I can’t remember the name of it) explained to his students, when doctors first started to perform kidney transplants many people died because of complications.  But it was because of those early mistakes doctors were able to learn from and eventually improve the procedure so that today there are hundreds of successful kidney transplants.
A great modern example of failure after failure is Lindsey Sterling.  She was on America’s Got Talent when the judges told her that there was no audience for what she did (dance and play the violin at the same time).  Again and again she met failure.   Everyone said she wasn’t going to succeed.  Over 3 million subscribers on her YouTube channel later . . . not to mention touring Europe, performing with the Mormon Tabernacle Choir, and releasing an album.  I wouldn’t call that failure.  But, she had to fail first before she could succeed.
Thomas Edison, inventor of the light bulb, said,
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up.  The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.”
Even with the fear of failure looming in front of me what do I do?  I start on one of these projects!  I realize that these projects aren’t going to affect my social status, how much my family loves me, or my divine worth.  Failure is just scary.
My husband accompanied me to the craft store (what I good husband!) where I bought some fabric for my pillowcase, and some crafty scrapbooking things for my calendar.  (I figured if I messed up on the calendar it wouldn’t be as bad as messing up on the scrapbook.  I can throw the calendar away in 12 months).  
As for the book blog I’ve already started it!  The first and second posts are up!  I figured if it fails then it fails.  At least I tried.  And in a year or two I can look back and laugh at my failures, realizing they have made me into a better person.

Information about my book blog.

I have wanted to start this blog for a long time, but never really knew how, and of course afraid that I would mess something up.  So one day I just decided to start it.  “Off the Shelves” is all about books (and some movies).  I’m not exactly sure what all I’m going to include in it, but I know there will be reviews on books and movies (the second post us about Disney’s Frozen). I’m also planning on blogging about the different elements in a good story, and anything to do with books; what we can learn from them, what makes a good book, and what doesn’t.  Pretty much whatever I feel like. 
To view my first post on “Off the Shelves” click here 

Friday, November 29, 2013

One of "Those" People


Two weeks ago 97.3 stopped playing their “classy” music and started playing Christmas music.  I was thrilled.  I no longer had to listen to The Backstreet Boys, Carly Rae Jespson, or Savage Garden.  I was now listening to the Trans-Siberian Orchestra, David Archuleta, Josh Groban, along with other artist back from before I was born. 
Two hours after they started playing Christmas songs someone switched the station.  We were back listening to what was popular now.  I groaned inside.  When I asked why the station had been switched one of my co-workers said, “We can’t listen to Christmas music before Thanksgiving!”  Several times after that I voiced my opinion that I didn’t mind Christmas music a few weeks before Thanksgiving.  “Oh, you’re one of those people,” my coworkers said. 
Yes, I am one of those people. 
I’ve noticed there are very few of those people in the world.  When we finally started listening to Christmas music at work I had several patients complain that radio stations were already playing Christmas music.  “It’s not even Thanksgiving yet!” 
I can understand where they are coming from.  I didn’t always listen to Christmas music before Thanksgiving.  In my mind if I listened to Christmas music, put up Christmas decorations, made fudge, or did anything Christmasy before the fourth Thursday in November I was forgetting all about Thanksgiving.  
I have come to realize that those people, myself included, are not forgetting all about Thanksgiving at all when the lights go up or the holiday music turns on before Thanksgiving.
This is why.

What does Christmas represent? 
Look at the word.  Christ.  Mas.  Christ’s Mass.   Meaning Christ’s sacrament—the eating of bread representing Christ’s body, and drinking of water or wine representing His blood. 
Nearly everything, including the worldly things about Christmas, points to Christ. 
·      The presents under the tree represent the gifts the wise men gave to Christ, gold, frankincense, and myrrh. 

·      The candy cane represents the staffs the shepherds held as they beheld the Christ child.  The red and white stripes representing the pure life Christ lived (white), and the blood He spilt for us in Gethsemane and on the cross (red).  
·      An evergreen tree is put up in nearly every house.  To me green represents new life.  Each of us have a new life in Christ.  All the needles on the tree point upward, reminding us to always look heavenward in all things we do.   
·      Santa Claus.  Though some may view Santa Claus as very worldly in this season of Christ, I don’t.  I believe he possesses many Christ-like attributes.  When, in any traditional story is Santa Claus ever selfish?  Never.  He spends all year conducting his elves in making toys for good boys and girls.  He encourages children to be good throughout the year. How many times did you hear mom and dad say, “Santa is going to put coal in your stocking and bring you no presents if you don’t behave”?  On the foggy Christmas Eve when Santa realized he would be unable to fly his sleigh because he could not see where he was going, he only thought of the children who would not receive their presents that year (thank goodness for Rudolph!).  He never thought about himself that night.  Santa doesn’t get a paycheck for how many toys he delivers.  When you picture Santa Claus do you see him as a grouch, or a happy jolly man?  Christ tells us to “Be of good cheer” (D&C 68:6).  Santa Claus is always of good cheer.

There are the traditions associated with Christmas that give us that warm, good, peaceful feeling.  Giving and receiving create a spirit of love and friendship.  Cracking open the old family recipe book and attempting to make great grandmas homemade pie or fudge.  Oh what fun and memories!  Ding dong ditching unsuspecting neighbors, watching as the kids answer the door and scream in delight at the plate of goodies left for them. It’s a time to lend a hand to those who don’t have as much as we do, a time to smile at strangers.  Often, Christmas is a time for families to get together.  Don’t forget all the unique traditions your family has each Christmas.  
We always have a marshmallow gun war on Christmas Eve!
A few Christmas songs that put me in mind of the Spirit of Christmas: “It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year” “Sleigh Ride,” and “The Christmas Song.”

Let’s not forget the Christmas stories.
The Little Drummer Boy who went to see the Christ child.  He had nothing to give his Savior but a humble beat on his drum. 
A Christmas Carol where old Scrooge learns a very important lesson on the value of life.  He changes his life to bless others.
In The Gift of the Magi Della selflessly sells her beautiful hair in order to purchase a chain for her husband’s prized watch, only to realize that he had selflessly sold his watch to buy beautiful combs for her hair.
Elf.  I love Buddy.  How can you not love an elf-want-to-be who reminds New York, and especially his father, the importance of family and of believing?
And one of my favorites, How the Grinch Stole Christmas.  The Grinch had a change of heart, and the Whos never lost sight of the real reason they celebrated Christmas.

 
Then there are the Christmas songs, which speak of Christ.  Those Christmas songs that bring the Spirit of Christmas—the Spirit of Christ.  It’s true that when I hear Christmas songs I’m reminded of all things Christmas.  I’m reminded of the Savior.  If it were not for Him then there would be no hope in this world.  There would be more despair and depression then there already is.  If He was not born then He could not have suffered and died.  If He had not suffered and died all mankind would be lost spiritually and physically.  There would be no way we could possibly return to our Father in Heaven and live happily with Him and our families forever. 
When I hear Christmas music two weeks before Thanksgiving I don’t get mad or irritated anymore.  I feel the Spirit of Christmas.  This Spirit only enhances my celebration of Thanksgiving.   I’m reminded that without the Savior I would have nothing to be grateful for. 
I am foremost thankful for my Savior, for my family, for the hope I have in my life, for my faith, for the education and knowledge I have, for the love I feel from family and friends, and of course my wonderful husband.  I am thankful for the wonderful life I have because of the Savior. I’m also thankful for the temporal things in life: my body pillow, heat pads, yummy holiday food, a warm apartment, my crockpot, and books, just to name a few. 
I’m not asking you to become one of those people who listens to Christmas music two weeks before Thanksgiving.  I am asking you to not get mad when this happens.  Remember that the music brings the Spirit of Christmas into our lives; it turns our hearts and thoughts to the Savior.  Without Him would there be anything to be thankful for on Thanksgiving?


A few of my favorite Christmas songs
“Christmastime” by Hilary Weeks
“The First Noel” by Cherie Call
“Christmas Canon” by Trans-Siberian Orchestra
“Sleigh Ride”
“Mr. Grinch” by The Coats
“Joy to the World”
“Stars Were Gleaming”
“Silver Bells” by Hilary Weeks
 “Go Tell It On the Mountain” by The Duttons